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Примечания
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Жизнестойкость от англ. «resilient» – стойкий, устойчивый, неунывающий. – Прим. пер.
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Парсич Нил. Формула счастья. Ничего + кое-что = все. – М.: Азбука-Аттикус, 2016.
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Здесь имеется в виду знаменитая американская телеведущая Опра Уинфри. – Прим. ред.
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American Idol – популярное американское телешоу на канале Fox. – Прим. ред.
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Хан Соло – персонаж «Звездных войн». – Прим. ред.
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«Taming the Mammoth: Why You Should Stop Caring What Other People Think», перевод Ии Зоиной для сайта «lifehackers.ru», 2014 (прим. пер).
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Гилберт Дэниел. Спотыкаясь о счастье. – М.: Альпина Паблишер, 2019.
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Джо и Фрэнк Харди – герои серии детских детективных романов, выпускающихся в США с 1927 года. – Прим. пер.
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Имеется в виду популярная американская телеведущая Опра Уинфри. – Прим. ред.
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Уилбер Кен. Краткая история всего. – М.: Манн, Иванов и Фербер, 2019.
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Годин Сет. Фиолетовая корова. Сделайте свой бизнес выдающимся! – М.: Манн, Иванов и Фербер, 2019.
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Годин Сет. Незаменимый. Можно ли без вас обойтись? – М.: Манн, Иванов и Фербер, 2010.
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Дуэк Кэрол. Гибкое сознание. Новый взгляд на психологию развития взрослых и детей. – М.: Манн, Иванов и Фербер, 2013.
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Олигополия – тип рыночной структуры, в которой доминирует малое количество фирм (например, компании «Boeing» и «Airbus» в авиации). – Прим. пер.
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Мэнсон Марк. Тонкое искусство пофигизма. Парадоксальный способ жить счастливо. – М.: Альпина Паблишер, 2020.
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Социальная сеть Facebook запрещена на территории Российской Федерации на основании осуществления экстремистской деятельности.
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Дословный перевод популярного английского выражения «Count your blessings». – Прим. пер.
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Баумайстер Рой, Тирни Джон. Сила воли. Возьми свою жизнь под контроль. – М.: Бомбора, 2018.
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От англ. «surrender» – сдаваться. – Прим. пер.
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От англ. «can» – мочь, уметь. – Прим. пер.
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Дэниэл Гилберт. Спотыкаясь о счастье. – СПб.: Питер, 2008.
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Шварц Барри. Парадокс выбора. Почему «больше» значит «меньше». – М.: Добрая книга, 2005.